I had a random thought this week. I wondered what my friends thought about me and how they would describe me as a person. So I decided to just ask them. I sent a simple statement “describe me as a person”. From there I gathered all the responses. I asked about 20 people who I consider a friend or deeper. Even asked a couple of exes I'm cool with (one was super petty, but whatever). The friends range from less than a year to almost my entire life so it's a pretty broad range. From there, I took all the words and created a wordle to see which words stand out (also, I didn't feel like counting each word they use. The best part about it is that wordles automatically makes the most used words bigger. So I'm going to go over some of the big words as well as the smaller ones.
Driven & Honest
I'm not surprised in the least DRIVEN was the most used word to describe me. Most people meet me and they know I'm all over the place with ideas and accomplishing goals. Usually if I want something I'll make it happen. If I can't find a way, I'll make one (quick shoutout to my Alma Mater, the Illustratious Clark Atlanta University). I've come a LONG way and I am no where close to achieving my goals.
Now, HONEST through me for a loop. Most of my friends know I am very blunt, logical and not the best sugar coater, which somehow translates to honest. **Kanye Shrug**
Again, not the biggest surprise. I'm normally introduced as “the smartest guy I know” or “he's like super smart”. I mean my bachelors degree is in Physics but I feel like I'm constantly surrounded by people who are smarter than me. I also think the thirsty for knowledge is a never ending practice. I also appreciate common sense and a lot of people don't consider that as a sign of intelligence but I do. Some of the smartest people I know never went to college. Hell, my role model is my grandfather and didn't know how to read and write. But he did speak 2 languages, could do math better than 80% of my family and worked as an industrial engeering assistant who knew more than the guy with the degree paying the big bucks. THAT to me is the sign of intelligence. Most “geniuses” can not survive in the real world and that lack of common sense is a lack of common sense isn't really a sign of intelligence in my opinion.
I remember when I studied at GA Tech, there were students tha literally would get robbed late at night/early in the morning because they were walking home at 4 in the morning from the library. We would get emails at least 3 times a week informing the campus of a robbery. Not to mention, we had at least 4 different ways to get to our cars or apartments around campus safely (1 being the campus police driving you to your car). These were some of the “brightest” individuals in the country but they never considered to think about their surroundings, smh.
I make that point to say this...the smartest person in the room isn't the one with the most degrees, but the one with the best balance of book and common sense.
NOW SWITCHING. TO THE SMALLER WORDS THAT STOOD OUT
I'm so shocked only a handful of people said this. It's interesting that most of my fiends don't see me as stubborn. Especially as I pretty much harassed anyone who didn't respond immediately. I sort of feel like stubborn and driven go hand in hand.
I think back to Steve Jobs’ book, it was flooded with points in his life where he was stubborn but driven. I believe his stubbornness is what enforced his drive. As I mentioned, once I have an idea or I want something, I will go for it regardless of who I upset. Also, I think about being called stubborn and I remember that I am stubborn so they can say this all they want and I would go about my business anyway. In short, FXCK YO FEELINGS. Just kidding. ;)
Optimistic yet Pestimistic
This came from one of closest and oldest friends (with her shady ass, lol I'm playing). This was a very valid point. She blamed it to the fact that I'm a Gemini (duality is a bitch), but she wasn't lying. I can pretty much be optimistic for an hour and then spiral down into a deep depression in a matter of minutes on the right day. Hell, in the past 36 hours I went from wanting to quit my job to loving my job. It happens. I will say this, having these qualities fighting back and forth makes my honesty a lot more potent. If a friend who presents a thought or idea to me I will them both positive and negative responses.
Yeah...I guess my friends wanted to be nice. I'm usually called out for being petty. I think it comes with intelligence. I really don't mean to be petty and sarcastic most of the time it sort of just comes out like that. My filter isn't the finest so shit just comes out. I feel that everyone should be sarcastic at some things. It's healthy. It's stress relieving I can't knock sense into people physically so I have to have witty puns and side comments. It's a coping mechanism for the lack of common sense people I'm constantly surrounded by.
I think that I also am affected by my friends. I'm surrounded by very sarcastic and petty friends so all I can say is that I AM A PRODUCT OF MY ENVIRONMENT.
it's amazing how my strong traits are almost powered by my weaker traits. The realization that your friends see you in different lights is amazing. It's eye opening and humbling (which NO ONE called me). It also gives me an idea of how the world portrays me.
I would like to say THANK YOU to all my friends who participated in this activity for me. I love you guys so much. I can't believe you all put up with me and all my craziness.
Also, I want to say this...to my readers...don't think I did this for not being able to identify my key qualities. I know my worth, my skills and the type of person/energy I put out to the world. I was curious to see what others thought, but this is not me trying to change. This is me understanding the world around me. In the beginning I called this an experiment and that is exactly what it was.
I will say it doesn't hurt to ask a few questions this though. It was invigorating and an eye opener on some cases. See, there goes the optimistic/pestimistic side again lol.
Au Revoir (Bye, Bye)